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如何成为一个乐观的人？请看以下建议：

1. Let go of the assumption that the world is against you, or that you were born with a gray cloud over your head. Be humble and stop pretending you've got the world all figured out. Sometimes bad experiences lead to good experiences, and you can't predict the future, so you can't assume it'll always be bad.
不要认为整个世界都是和你做对，也不要认为你天生是个倒霉蛋，更不要认为你已经看透了整个世界。有些时候否极泰来，你永远无法预知未来，所以，你也永远不要认为事情总是你想的那么糟糕。

2. Look for the source of your pessimism. Deep-rooted negativity can often be traced to childhood experiences, when growing minds observe their circumstances and make presumptions about how the world functions. If all you saw growing up were disappointments, betrayals and failure, it's no surprise that now it's what you expect from the world as an adult. Sometimes we pick up a flair for pessimism from a parent who made negative assumptions about the world somewhere along the line. Either way, the sooner you can attribute your pessimism to a unique set of circumstances rather than the state of the world itself, the easier it'll be to change your perspective.
追溯你悲观的根源。很多已经根深蒂固的悲观情绪，它的源头可以追溯到你的孩童时期。因为那个时候，你的思想意识正在形成，而你的所见所闻会影响你对身边的事物所做出的推定。如果你的成长过程中看到的大部分是失望、背叛和失败，那么现在的你作为一个成年人，对世界有这样的看法是一点都不值得奇怪的。有的时候我们也会受到父母悲观情绪的影响。不管哪种原因，你越是能尽快意识到你的悲观情绪是源于一些特殊的环境而非世界形态本身，那么你就越会容易改变自己的观点。

3. Understand that the past does not equal the future. Just because you've experienced pain or disappointment in the past does not guarantee that it's all you'll experience in the future. There were many things in your past that you couldn't control, and everybody comes across unfortunate circumstances at some point in their lives - you're no exception.
要明白过去不等于未来。即使你之前经历了痛苦和失望，但并不能说明这些就是你今后的全部。在你的过去，有很多事情是你无法控制的。从某种角度来说，每个人都会遇到自己生活中不幸的环境和经历，你也不例外。

4. Stop thinking about what is happening to you and start thinking about what you can make things happen. If you're not happy with the way your life is now, set goals and move on. Use your past bad experiences to build character and make yourself a better person, instead of letting pessimism turn you into someone who avoids risks. Sometimes it is necessary to take risks to receive rewards. It is better to play to win rather than merely to avoid losing.
不要不停地去想发生了什么，你应该开始想想你可以做什么。如果你不满意现在的生活方式，你可以给自己设定一个目标，然后去实现它。要学会利用过去的不好经历去重塑自己的个性，从而更好地去完善自己，而不是让消极态度把自己变成一个不爱冒风险的人。自己努力去赢得胜利远好于努力去避免失败。

 
5. Be thankful. Everyone has something to be grateful for. Make a list of the good things that have happened to you. Every time you are feeling negative, read through them and remind yourself that it's not all bad.
要学会感激。每个人都有一些人或事情值得感激。把在你身上发生的好的事情列一个清单，在你觉得消极的时候，拿出来看看，并提醒自己并不是什么事情都那么糟糕。

6. Use motivational quotes. Write down short statements that remind you of what you're trying to change about the way you see the world. Put them in places where you'll see them every day, such as on your bathroom mirror, the inside of your locker, on your computer monitor. Some quotes to start with are:
要学会利用励志名言。把那些能改变你世界观的信条写下来，然后把它们放到你每天都能看得到的地方，比如浴室镜子、衣柜或电脑显示器上。这些励志名言可以是：

Nothing is impossible.
没有什么不可能。
It's hard to beat a person who never gives up.
要打败一个永不放弃的人是很难的。
What doesn't kill me makes me stronger.
杀吾不死令吾强大。
Storms make trees take deeper roots.
暴风雨让树木的根扎得更深。

7. Remember that life is short. When you feel pessimism clouding your judgment or you start to feel down about the future, remind yourself that every minute counts, and any time spent brooding guarantees nothing but less time to enjoy whatever life might have to offer. At its core, pessimism is impractical because it causes you to spend time dwelling on things that haven't happened yet and aren't guaranteed to happen, and it prevents you from getting things done.
记住：生命是短暂的！如果你觉得悲观情绪左右着你的判断，或者你开始觉得对未来失去信心的时候，不要忘了提醒自己时间正在一分一秒流逝。花时间忧思不会给你带来任何好处，而只能带给你更少的时间去享受生活。悲观本质上是不切实际的，因为它让你在还没有发生，并且也不一定会发生的事情上浪费了时间，它阻碍了你完成应该完成的事情。
 
Other tips:
其它建议：

1. Look happy. Studies have shown that putting a positive expression on your face can actually make you feel happier and more optimistic about the future.
让自己看上去快乐。研究表明：脸上洋溢着快乐能够让自己觉得快乐，对未来也会更乐观。

2. Practice by conveying these ideas to others. If you hear someone being pessimistic, counsel them based on these steps. Sometimes it's easier to understand a perspective if you explain it to someone else first.
试着把以上这些建议传达给别人。如果你听到有人很悲观，可以利用以上这些建议对其进行劝告。有时候要想让自己更容易理解某种观点，最好先把它解释给别人听。

3. Avoid negative people. If you can't avoid them, learn how to not let them get you down.
要尽力避开消极的人。如果你实在避不开，要学会不要让它们影响你的情绪。

4. Realize that it's not about what happens to you, it's about how you react to what happens.
要意识到，发生在你身上的事并不重要，重要的是你如何对发生的事做出反应。